(this pink pacifier is for my dad, who thinks it is most definately a girl)Friends,
I am asking for your opinion. I honestly think I know which way I will go, but I love to hear your thoughts and ideas. Should we find out what we are having or be surprised? I know that it would be much more convenient for showers, nursery, etc to know....but there is a part of me that thinks it would be really cool not to know until we see our babies sweet face (well not face, but you get the idea). Thoughts? What would you do, or what have you done?
Em
7 comments:
It's a surprise either way! One way just allows you to bond with the baby as a boy or girl several weeks prior to birth. But our friends here waited and that was fun too! I'm having a girl...so you obviously know what I think about finding out!
Jenn (Horowitz) Alrikabi
There are very few surprises in life anymore so why not get another one although I have had tons of friends do either way and I really think it is up to you guys! We thought we might be coming home with a boy but had no idea he would be three! So, there are still surprises along the way! ;) karen
My sister waited to find out with both her kids. I have to say it WAS really fun to sit in the waiting room at the hospital and wait for my brother-in-law to come out and announce "It's a ____!!!"
That being said, I would probably find out. I am shallow and want a cute gender-specific nursery!!
We have decided to not find out! We talked about it a long time ago and we just love the idea of finding out on the day our sweet baby is born. There are cute gender neutral nurserys too!!
At the same time, I totally understand if you find out. I am sure it makes things easier!
I thought finding out was like my first due date. I counted down to that day first!! Then we celebrated by getting to order/register for all things girl :) Then it was still such a surprise to finally see Ivy's sweet face and get to hold her in my arms.
My mom didn't find out either time and she is a big fan of the surprise factor!!
We always thought we'd like to be surprised at birth. With adoption you don't have a lot of choice: if the birth parents know the gender, you will know. In both cases we knew ahead of time. Sort of.
In our 1st adoption, we thought we were getting a girl and we started decorating and planning... and that one fell through. Blessedly, the next one was also a girl and we got her. ;o)
With our 2nd, we were matched to get a boy and started going with a denim/red/navy plan (no real theme, though). When that one fell through and we were matched again, it was a girl. So we had to adapt our room plan, but it was pretty simple since we had no real theme.
I guess I would say, as your first commenter said, it's a surprise no matter when you find out. I KNOW how excited you are just to know you will finally BE parents!!
SO if you are a heavy-duty planner, like me, find out. It will alleviate your stress level. It will also give you a chance to start calling your baby by name, instead of "it."
If you are more laid-back, love surprises, agree on a boy AND a girl name, and can plan a room that can be adapted, then wait.
Lotta help, huh?!
I found out with both my girls. I do think it would be fun to be surprised. But either way, having a baby will bring plenty of surprises beyond finding out the sex. If you do decide to find out...I promise, it won't change the awesomness of bringing a child into this world.
Allie Major
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